Dealing with the Green Eyed Monster

Last night, I went to the usual weekly jam night with a group of musicians who I've built friendships with over the past few months. I've been singing at these nights for as long as I've been going. But last night, there was another female singer there.

Big deal, right? Yeah, you're right. Whilst at one point I would've hated her purely for being competition, this time I invited her to duet with me. Turns out she had been planning on singing one of my favourite songs, Feeling Good, and she jumped at the chance to sing with me.

We ended up talking about music, and I learned a lot from her. She's a very positive person. I gained a friend last night, one who I could easily have shunned for no good reason at all.

Jealousy is a bitch. There's no point sugar coating it. We've all experienced it, and we'd all agree it sucks. I wish I could sit here and offer you a magical solution but I can't. It's a state of mind, and part of human nature.

But there are ways we can deal with the effects of envy. When I started uni, there was one girl who seemed to have it all. She was creative, intelligent and her blog, which had gained quite a following, was amazing. Then I found out she could sing too. Whilst at first I felt a little threatened, I later made friends and realised that, yes, she is this fantastically talented person, but she's also a human being. And actually, I've learned loads from her too.

There will always be people who surpass you in certain areas of your life. I love singing, but I'll never be Beyonce. I love fashion blogging, but I can't hope to find myself in Susie Bubble's shoes. Be yourself, follow your passions, and you will find that you are unique and perfect despite not being amazing at everything you try. It's true what they say - practice does make perfect.

You can sit around, all 'woe is me', feeling sorry for yourself. Or you can get to know people and better yourself through learning and friendship. It's a big world out there, and we're all in it together.

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